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  - Addictive Emotional Process: 
 Key To Understanding Your Church
 
Thomas F. Fischer
  
  - Number 338
- Perhaps the most frequently asked question Christian leaders ask is, "Why?" - 
      - *  Why do people act the way they do?
 
 *  Why  does anxiety play such an important role in the success of the church?
 
 *  Why do people suddenly turn away from relationships and betray?
 
 *  Why  cant organizations and leaders ever seem to move beyond the
         status quo?
 *  Why is it that if weve never done it that way before, theyll likely never be
        able to ever do it?
 
- The reason for these and other mystifying quandaries may be simple. Its simply
    
    addictive emotional process at work.
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- The Key: Emotional Process
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- Perhaps the most important perspective for leaders to understand organizational behavior
    is emotional process. Over the past decades church leaders have been directed to go from a
    "program" perspective to a "process" perspective. This was a first
    step. 
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- A second step was the introduction of Bowen family systems theory. Of all the things
    that Bowen theory espouses, one of the key contributions is to recognize the
    importance of
    emotional processes in families and organizations. Rabbi Friedmans insights in From
    Generation to Generation took this one step further by applying it to ecclesiastical
    organizations.
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- This article suggests a more specific third step: identifying and describing the nature
    of the emotional process all too often found in dysfunctional churches. That process is an
    emotional process fueled, fostered and foisted by a specific emotional process: Addictive
    Emotional Process.
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- Indicators of Addictive Emotional Process
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- Counselors, consultants and conflict mediators specializing in addiction-related
    counseling deal with indicators of addictive process regularly. What many pastors and
    church leaders dont knowor recognizeis that they do to! 
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-  Without an
    understanding of the indicators and behaviors signs of addictive process, one can
    experience remarkably mystifying pain and a conundrum of apparently conflicting
    phenomenon. Frustrated, the unmistakable indicator of the presence of emotional process is
    often the painful "Why?" of conflict.
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- In order to gain insight into the kinds of behaviors indicating emotional process,
    perhaps the best paradigm is the alcoholic family. Those families characterized and
    influenced by alcohol demonstrate several predictable roles, each role having a particular
    set of behaviors typical of addictive emotional process.
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- ACoA and ACDF literatures have referred to anywhere from 4-6 (or more) family roles in
    families. At its simplest level and for the sake of understanding addictive emotional
    process, these roles can be reduce to two basic family roles: active and passive.  
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    Regardless of how many different roles can be identified, emotional family systems all
    haveand requireactive roles ("The Dominant Addict") and passive
    roles ("The Passive Codependent"). 
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- The Dominant Addict
 Sometimes referred to as the "Hero" in Adult Child of Alcoholic literature,
    perhaps the key indicators of the Dominant Addict emotional process include:
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- 1) Dominant Addict. These members, typically a parent (though not
    necessarily so), is the one who "calls the shots." He or she often demonstrates
    the presence of one or more addictions or compulsive behaviors. These behaviors, as in any
    addictive family, necessitate other family members to alter their personal preferences,
    behaviors and values
or else face rejection. and 
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- 2) Passive Codependents. These family members, whatever their family
    role (e.g. scapegoat, loner, mascot et al), are marked by their essential dependence on
    the Dominant Addict. Passive codependents, like Dominant Addicts, are driven by fear. The
    main difference, however, is that the Dominant Addict uses the fearful threats to control
    passive codependents. Passive codependents, overwhelmed by the fear, attenuate
    the fear
    by giving up their own identities and fusing to the will of the Dominant Addict.
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- Part I: The Dominant Addict
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- Dominant Addicts include individuals from every walk of life. Whether the addictive
    agent is a substance (alcohol, drugs, etc) or an activity (work, hobbies, etc), the
    dominant addict will be marked by the following behaviors:
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      - * Narcissism ("I am the best")
 * Lack of self-differentiation from what they do
 * Instant-gratification oriented
 * Extremely dominant, pushy and demanding
 * Insensitivity to individual needs
 * Impulsive and unpredictable in their needs, wants and demands
 * Given to irrational outbursts of anger
 * Relationship messages vacillating between extremes: One moment they can be the most
        caring individual; the next moment they may go to the exact polar opposite
        and possibly abusive extreme
 * The are extremely controlling, distrustful, insensitive, and demanding perfection from
        everyone
 * Will hardly ever give commendation or approval to others for their hard-earned efforts.
        After all, whatever someone else does is never perfect.
 * Require that everyone else give up their identities, values, and preferences to help
        them get whatever they want for themselves.
 * Disavowal and/or destruction of those who would deny them of what they require, demand,
        or need to maintain their addictive emotional process.
 * Demand that others around them maintain the fantasy-based façade which enables,
        supports, perpetuates and escalates the level of influence of their addictive emotional
        process.
 
  - Dominant Addicts are in a chronic state of denial. In their view there is nothing wrong
    with their behaviors, attitudes and emotional process. Common denial behaviors include
    scapegoating, projection, fight/flight, passive-aggressiveness, etc.
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- Dominant Addict In The Family
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- Within a family, the Dominant Addict can be male or female, head of the family, a child
    or sibling. Within other larger social systems (including the church), the dominant addict
    can be the pastor, staff, or lay leaders, elected or non-elected. 
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- Dominant Addicts may exert "positive" influence or "negative
    influence depending on the specific bent of their addictive emotional process.
    "Super-Pastors," antagonists, individual "movers and shakers," and
    extremely high commitment personalities in the church are some of the personalities which
    can exemplify dominant addict emotional process. 
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- The Common Denominators
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- Whatever the addictive agent or agents (addictions tend to be multiple in nature), there
    are at least two unmistakable common denominators in virtually all dominant addict
    emotional process.
      - 1) The first common denominator is a lack of self-differentiation. Unable to nurture an
        autonomous sense of self-esteem, they strive to find a sense of self-worth from their
        environmentpeople, tasks and things. 
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- 2) Closely related to this first common denomination is a second common denominator:
        multiple goal confusion. 
 
- Multiple Goal Confusion
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- Multiple goal confusion is a phenomenon which describes the state of individuals who are
    unable to separate their self-esteem from their social goals and their task goals.
    Dominant addicts are unable to maintain a healthy, autonomous sense of
    self-esteem. Instead they confuse these external social and task goal achievements in
    unhealthy, undifferentiated ways. 
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- The resulting self-esteem is based almost exclusively on externals. If they are
    successful in tasks and relationships, they erroneously believe they are "good."
    If they fail in eitheror anyof these areas, they erroneously and automatically
    believe they are failures. 
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- Multiple goal confusion perpetuates two key elements of addictive emotional process. 
  
        - First, it results in an ever-increasing insatiably addictive need for external
          affirmation for themselves from others; and 
        - Second, it results inand necessitatesan insatiable, obsessive
          perfectionism.
  Jesus addressed this unhealthy self-esteem base. "But store up for
  yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where
  thieves do not break in and steal" (Matthew 6:20 NIV). Those who put their
    trust in externals and base their self-esteem as described by unhealthy addictive
    emotional process have  two options:
      1) Steal the self-esteem of others for themselves or,
  
      2) Change the base of their self-esteem toward God.
  - In this sense addictive emotional process truly is a spiritual issue in the most
    profound sense.
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- Combined Effects
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- The combined effect of a lack of self-differentiation and multiple goal confusion
    results in a woefully unhealthy lack of self-definition. Combined with a tendency to
    confuse goals and relationships, this results in the dominant addicts tendency to
    seek, by any means possible, fulfillment of their addictive emotional process. 
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- Since their own efforts and achievements do not satisfy, they seek fulfillment of their
    insatiable, addictive need for approval from others. This requires that they habitually
    disregard others' personal boundaries. 
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- Prying for information, pushiness, being controlling, perfectionistic judgmentalism,
    busybody-ness, and habitual triangling are but some of the indicators of addictive
    emotional process at work. The more intense the level of the dominant addicts
    emotional addictive process, the more demanding, controlling and perfectionistic
    they will be toward others...irrespective of the cost or consequences. 
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- Authority Figures: Are They Vulnerable?
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- Since those in positions of authority and esteem are perceived to have higher levels of
    self-esteem needed to perpetuate the dominant addicts emotional process, they direct
    their energies towards such individuals. For dominant addicts, to have self-esteem is to
    have someone elses self-esteem. 
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- The catch however is that in order to get this self-esteem they have to "suck"
    the self-esteem from another and make it their own. To the extent that esteemed leaders
    are not well-differentiated and also prone toward participating in addictive emotional
    process is the extent to which they may be vulnerable to the dominant addict emotional
    process. 
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- The Real Problem: Not The Dominant Addict
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- This means that the problem with antagonists is not the antagonist in and of themselves.
    Instead, the problem is that the esteemed leaderwhether pastor, staff member, lay
    leader et alis participating in the dominant addicts emotional
    process. The anxiety, fear, feeling threatened, etc. which leaders feel when antagonism
    takes hold is an indication that they are participating in this emotional process. 
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- Well-differentiated leaders, on the other hand, find that as long as they distance
    themselves from the addictive emotional process, they are able to maintain a non-anxious
    stance, their self-esteem, and the fulfillment of Gods calling and vision through
    them. Things may not go as planned. But, whatever happens, the healthily
    well-differentiated leader has an endurance and resiliency which markedly raises the
    anxiety of dominant addicts. 
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- This may result in resistance and attacks on the well-differentiated leader which are
    virtually totally unsolicited. The problem is not what the well-differentiated leader does
    that causes increased anxiety in dominant addictive process; its the dominant
    addicts insatiable demand for self-esteem from external sources which must, to be
    attained, target and destroy others whom they believe can provide even temporary
    fulfillment.
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- Are There "Good" Dominant Addicts?
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- Whether protagonist or antagonist, "helpful" or "destructive" to the
    organizations goals or values, the important thing to mark about this process is
    this. The dominant addict has such an insatiably addictive need for affirmation that they
    will stop at virtually nothing to fill their "black hole" of need. 
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- Dominant addict emotional process is almost invariably locked in this emotionally
    painful and unhealthy state. Recovery from this addictive emotional process requires
    facing the fear, giving up control, humbling oneself and, in spiritual
    brokenness, discovering
    the profundity of Gods unconditional grace for them. It is this grace which makes
    them children of God. This grace also makes them aware of what Jesus really meant when He
    said, "The Kingdom of God is within you" (Luke 17:11). 
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- Confronting the Dominant Addict
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- Confronting the dominant addict is virtually always difficult. It can also be dangerous.
    Yet this confrontation is the "stuff" of a ministry in the prophetic tradition
    of Scripture. Denial mechanisms are often virtually impenetrable and the highly-perfected
    result of a life-long process of refinement. Whether the individual is
    "positive" or "negative", neither will readily admit their addictive
    process. 
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- This is especially true in religious contexts. "Super-Pastors" and
    "hyper-dedicated leaders" may turn a deaf ear and give a harsh word to those who
    compassionately try to address their addictive emotional process. So do their negative,
    antagonistic counterparts. 
Part II: The Passive Codependent
  - Equally unhealthy and damaging are passive codependents. Because they are passive, they
    are not immediately seen as "damaging." Indeed, congregational members and
    leaders frequently confuse "love" with "unhealthily enabling
    codependency." This is how conflicted churchesand specifically conflicted
    churches with a long history of serial pastoral removalssee themselves: as
    "loving churches." They are anxiously "stuck" in an addictive
    emotional process perpetuated and enabled by passive codependents.
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- Passive codependents participate in this emotional process for much the same reason as
    the dominant addict. They lack self-esteem. They are marked by multiple goal confusion.
    They compulsively seek validation outside of themselves. 
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- Unlike the dominant addict who aggressively maintains addictive emotional process by
    wresting it from others, the passive codependent maintains their addictive process by
    willingly sacrificing all their goals, relationships, vision and themselves to satisfy
    their addictive need for affirmation. In this way they complementand feed
    oneach others addictive emotional entanglement. 
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- Whatever the dominant addicts means of controlintimidation, interrogation,
    "poor me," or remaining aloofthe passive codependents insatiable
    addictive need for affirmation and validation for self responds in the affirmative. They
    give their all to the dominant addict at virtually any and all costs. 
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- This virtually irresistible compulsion for self-sacrificeto the point of
    annihilationis demonstrated in unhealthy relationships in marriages, in
    families and, of course, in organizations including the church.
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- Organizational Results
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- Though these dynamics are always present as long as addictive emotional processes are
    present, they are more obvious at higher levels of conflict. Speed Leas, noted for his
    "Five Levels of Conflict," noted how conflict dynamics qualitatively change
    between Level III and Level IV. 
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- Whereas at Level III conflict dynamics still have a "rational" component, at
    Level IV, rampant emotionalism virtually drowns out any possibility for the rational. Thus
    it is at Levels IV and V that one comes face-to-face with the ugly dragon of addictive
    emotional process.
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- In what ways does this mutually-sustaining emotional dynamic "play out" in
    organizations? Below is a listing of some of the ways in which this occurs. 
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- 1) Resistance to change
 
- "Weve never done it that way before" is not merely a
    "maintenance" mindset. Its one of the key indicators of unhealthy
    addictive emotional process at work. The addictive nature of the emotional process is such
    that it requires a steadyand predictableflow of dominant and passive
    codependent energies. Any perceived disruption of that process threatens both the process
    and its primary raison detre: to provide an unhealthy illusory
    substitute for healthy autonomy. 
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- To those entrenched in addictive emotional process, introducing change is like taking a
    pacifier from a baby or, more appropriately, the regular, predictable source and enjoyment
    of alcohol from an alcoholic.
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- 2) "Yes-Man" Compliant Behaviors
 
- One of the most common challenges for divorced codependents leaving an abusive
    relationship with a dominant addict is to develop and healthy, autonomous self-esteem. For
    yearsand sometimes decadesthese individuals have been compliant to the demands
    of the abusive spouse. Amazingly, they often note that they "didnt know"
    they had the power to say "yes" or "no." This is true even when they
    experienced extreme physical abuse. 
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- It is only after a healthy intentional recovery process has begun to take root that they
    begin to escape the blindness of the addictive emotional process from which they came.
    Resultantly they begin to evaluate their painful past on the basis of more rational
    criteria
not on an addictive dysfunctional emotional process marked, among others
    things, by denial.
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- 3) The "sudden" eruption of conflict
 
- Codependent process is marked by an inability to talk, trust and feel for itself. When
    combined with the ever-present addictive need to have their existential anxiety satisfied
    by fusion to a dominant addict, the result is that they feel whatever the dominant addict
    wants them to feel. 
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- It is said, "When momma aint happy, no ones happy." In much the
    same way, when the dominant addict is anxious, everyone is anxious. Codependent passivity
    then fuses codependents to the dominant addict. They ride the same roller coaster.
    Wherever the dominant addict goes, they will go. This dynamic will remain constant until
    there is a change in the addictive emotional process and/or any individual within that
    process. 
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- In long-established churches, this codependent passivity can be entrenched and persist
    over multiple generations. Once firmly ensconced in the organization system, it can be
    virtually impossible for Godand human interventionto remove. 
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- 4) The proliferation of "non-issue" issues in conflict
 
- A curious and strangely irrational dynamic of higher levels of congregational conflict
    is the emergence of non-issues. 
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- Pastors in congregational conflict frequently experience this. Nit-picky criticisms such
    as "The pastor doesnt smile enough," "The pastors shoes
    werent polished," "The pastors sleeve on the preaching robe was dirty," "The pastor isnt friendly enough with
    children," "The pastor came to the hospital in the afternoon instead of the
    morning to visit my mother" are just a sampling of "non-issues" criticisms.
  
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- The reason for these criticisms is not the stated issue. The reason is to ventand
    maintainaddictive emotional process. (cf. Ministry
    Health  #20 "The Issue Is Not The Issue."
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- 5) Unfair Projection of Blame To The Pastor
 
- Blaming others for issues which are not "really" issues and other such
    unwarranted, exaggerated accusations are specifically part of the addictive complex. It is
    a form of denial, specifically, projection. 
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- Projection maintains addictive behavior and the required equilibrium by directing
    anxious energies which threaten the system toward an external object of blame. The content
    of the blame is not really important. What is important is that the addicts anxious
    energies are effectively removed from the addict. 
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- Projecting blame on authority figures and specifically pastors serves at least two
    functions. 
  
        - First, as a denial mechanism it prevents outside energies from disrupting the
          addictive interplay of roles.
 
        - Second, it serves as a source of additional external source of self-esteem
          "capital" for the dominant addict. This gives an added "rush" to the
          addictive experience.
  - Since dominant addicts and passive codependents share the same ultimate self-esteem
    base, they will readily fuse together as common forces. As partners in addictive fusion,
    they will seek one main goal: continued affirmation. This affirmation is the
    "capital" or fuel needed to maintain the addictive system. 
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- 6) Painful Exposure Of Pastoral Vulnerability
 
- In general, authority figures have the highest levels of affirmation
    "capital." In the church, the best and most abundant source is the pastor. This
    plays out in two ways:
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- Pastors en route to experiencing remarkable ministry success and those
    ministering in a declining setting are both very vulnerable prey. Either extreme is marked
    by anxiety. By means of attackingand destroyingthis pastor the addicts gain
    affirmation capital needed to maintain the equilibrium of their addictive system.
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- The most vulnerable pastors, of course, are those who are also enmeshed in an unhealthy
    addictive emotional process. This includes those who lack healthy self-differentiation,
    who are anxiously attached to their church, workaholics, and those perfectionists driven
    to get affirmation, acceptance and recognition to support their self-esteem via their
    achievements. 
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- Those pastors who exhibit the above characteristics will be vulnerable to face deep
    pain as they experience the emptiness and futility of ministry efforts directed to
    satisfying ones own weak, unhealthy, and misdirected self-esteem. 
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- A dedicated, sixty-ish parishioner was asked, 
    
      -  "Why didnt you enter the
    pastoral ministry?" 
- "Because I didnt want to have to face my issues," he
        responded. 
 
-  The ministry does require that sooner or later, we face our issues.
    Experiencing the ever-present dynamics of addictive emotional process virtually guarantees
    that every pastor will have this experience.
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- 7) Individuals inexplicably transferring to "contrarian"
    congregations
 
- This external validation can be powerful. It helps to explain why those apparently
    disagreeing with a philosophy of ministry in congregation will transfer to another
    congregation which specifically practices the philosophy of ministry which they had
    opposed. 
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- When this occurs, it may be an indicator of addictive emotional process. These passive
    codependent individuals have simply moved the source of their addictive process from one
    congregation to another. 
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-  Having found another dominant addict in a pastor, staff member,
    or lay leaders (whether protagonist or antagonist), the "issues" become
    irrelevant. Once the emotional process is restored to equilibrium, nothingnothingelse
    matters.
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- 8) Unwillingness/Inability To "Own Up" To Ones Actions
 
- It is virtually axiomatic that those who start trouble are the last ones to acknowledge
    responsibility for it. Again, denial mechanisms are at work. They deny the obvious, the
    factual, the essential and undeniable. On the other hand, they affirm, invent, twist and
    even fabricate "fantasies" to affirm their own position. Again, as irrational as
    it may appear, this process is readily explicable. The explanation is found in the
    dynamics of addictive process.
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- 9) Highly Reactive And Unstable Relationships
 
- Extreme conflict often re-arranges relationships in some very strange ways. Some are
    predictable. Others are, to say the least, surprising. What also happens is that these
    relationships are inherently unstable. Those whom have befriended the pastor in very close
    ways will sometimes flee to the opposition or betray the pastor. Sometimes this represents
    a complete reversal of stated positions.
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- A possible reason for this is that the pastoral support was based on unhealthy
    connections purposed to reduce anxiety. When the pastor becomes the focus of anxiety, the
    pastor is no longer able to serve the anxiety relief function. Instead, the pastor may
    even increase the anxiety to intolerable levels. Thus the friendship breaks
suddenly,
    inexplicably
all because of anxious emotional process. 
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- A word of warning: Watch out for fused relationships,  including those which are
    presently supportive. Driven by the need to reduce anxiety, these relationships live and
    die depending on the unpredictable changing winds of anxiety.  Count on
    it! It's
    characteristic of fusion-based relationships.
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- 10) Clergy Sexual Misconduct
 
- This tendency toward unstable relationships also may lead to a loneliness which may be
    related toward seeking inappropriate intimate relationships. In this context clergy sexual
    misconduct is an indicator that the offending pastor is enmeshed in addictive emotional
    process. 
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-  In this role the clergy either fulfills the addictive codependency of the partner
    as a dominant addict or seeks fulfillment of passive codependence through another.
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- 11) Short-Term Focused
 
- The nature of addiction is that it is highly resistant to long-term consequences.
    Indeed, blindness to long-term consequences is a form of denial. This type of denial
    blocks the awareness of the long-term consequencesand hence the painof any of the
    addicts actions. 
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- Even if the consequences are clearly explained and outlined in black and whiteand
    repeatedlythe outcome will remain the same. They simply dont understand.
    Indeed, they cant
until they gain awareness of and desire recovery from their
    addictive emotional process.
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- 12) Inability To Build Spiritual Momentum
 
- Whether one is trying to get the congregation to be directed toward a vision, working to
    create a momentum for ministry growth, or trying to get individuals spiritually involved
    in the congregation, those dealing with congregations plagued by addictive emotional
    processes will find the going difficult if not virtually impossible. The resistance
    experienced can give rise to chronic pastoral ministry frustration, spiritual depression
    and, perhaps most significantly, a pervasive sense of self-doubt. 
  Recognizing the addictive emotional process can not only help give possible reasons for
    the ministry challenges one faces. It can also help one to avoid unnecessary self-doubt
    and loss of ministry passion. Most important, perhaps, is that the recognition of
    addictive emotional process can lead one to get a healthy perspective by which to
    evaluate, plan, and lead the people of God.
  
  
  - Societal Regression 
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- Unless recognized and confronted, the combination of dominant addict and passive
    codependent addictive behavior escalates a destructive emotional process which ultimately
    leads to what Bowen calls "societal regression." 
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- The greater the dependency on the dominant addict (whether "Hero" or
    "Villain"), the greater the propensity for an increasingly anxious emotional
    process. This increase anxiety will result in a higher degree of unhealthy fusion.
    Unstopped, this unhealthy fusion becomes the seed of organizational self-sabotage. 
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- Perpetuated over time, anxiety-based fusion perpetuates all kinds of destructive
    dynamics found in dysfunctional, conflicted churches. It is this fusion which stops growth
  
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- Implications For  Your Ministry
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- First, the "bad" news. Given the presence of emotional processes in
    congregational life and the emotional systems which maintain and undergird the
    organization, congregational leadership is, at best, precarious. At worst, its
    hazardous. 
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- Its most hazardous for change agents. Organizations dont change their
    emotional systems overnight. The more entrenched they are, the greater the likelihood of
    highly developed and successful defense mechanisms to maintain the system. 
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- Whenever one tries to change the entire organization at once, one might feel
    "successful" for a time. That is, until all hell breaks out. Multitudes of
    remarkably successful and effective ministry growth initiatives have been decimated by
    anxious addictive emotional processes. 
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- Endeavors to bring individuals into recovery from dominant addict or passive codependent
    behaviors are equally precarious. In either case, recovery can only happen if their
    unhealthy anxious base of self-esteem can be replaced with a non-anxious, autonomous
    self-esteem. 
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- This renewed sense of healthy self-esteem cannotand must notbe based on some
    short of shallow positive "feel good-ism" philosophy. Such philosophies simply
    substitute the external bases of self-esteem from one dominant addictive practitioner to
    another. The final result is that the addictive dynamics are perpetuated with the same,
    unhealthy end: I can be happy because of some external event or person to provide this
    external sense of validation. 
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- The bestand onlysource of this healthy self-esteem is in a proper Biblical,
    evangelical understanding of "grace."
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- The "Good" News
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- The "good" news is that the prescription for recovery is specifically in the
    Gospel, the "Good News" of grace. Scripture is given for "doctrine,
    reproof, correction
and instructing one in righteous living (II Timothy 3:15). As
    such, it is directed specifically to those enmeshed in the addictive, sinful emotional
    process inherited from Adam and Eve. 
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- Shame, fear, denial, and the unhealthy yielding of self-esteem for externalities are
    root evidences of original sin. They are also key pillars of addictive emotional process.
    This emotional process leads to those things found in Romans 1, the works of the flesh in
    Galatians 5, and other sinful excesses found in Scripture.
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- A Broken Heart
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- One might suggest that David, in Psalm 51, reflects on his own recovery from addictive
    emotional process. As dominant addict he succumbed to sexual addiction with
    Bathsheba. He
    sought the fulfillment of his self-esteem through externals. His affair with Bathsheba and
    his murderous abuse of her husband, Uriah, may well be indicators of his addictive
    emotional process.
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- Davids confession and recognition, "A broken and contrite heart, O God, you
    will not despise" (Psalm 51) are words of one who is broken. Davids
    addictively driven emotional process result in the inevitable legacy of both dominant
    addict and passive codependent: self-sabotage and self-destruction. 
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- When this occurs, those who open their hearts to God begin a process of recovery, rooted
    in a penitent confession of brokenness before God and others. This, and this alone, is the
    specific focus of intervention in individuals and congregations dominated by addictive
    emotional process. (Note: Ministry Health has
    numerous articles dealing with spiritual "brokenness." Please check the
    site search engine). 
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- Brokenness: A Scriptural Key
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- This intervention requires an authoritative view of Scripture. It requires a Gospel not
    watered down by unhealthy intrusions or adaptations made by those trying to shape God and
    His Word to their sinful, addictive process. It requires a preaching of the Law and will
    of God which stirs hearts into recognition, contrition and confession. 
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- By the same token, it requires the preaching of the plenary profundity of the
    unconditional immeasurable grace of Jesus Christ. This understanding goes far beyond a
    simply "academic" perfunctory confession, "I love Jesus." Instead, it
    goes to the very heart of experiencing the "new treasures" of grace (Matthew
    13:44)
    which characterize the hearts and confidence of those who recognize "the
    kingdom of
    God is  within  you" (Luke 17:21 NIV). 
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- Christian Ministry: A Tilt Toward Recovery
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- Whats needed? A new paradigm for the church which showcases the entire
    Scriptures--Law and Gospelas essential tools for healthy, spiritual recovery. Some
    organizations are, alas, recognizing the necessity of a "recovery-oriented"
    ministry. It can appear in an informal pattern such as Willow Creek et al. Historically,
    it has occurredand still occursin the traditional liturgy of the Church.
      
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- However it is found, the focus of worship and ministry must always be on
    recoveryspiritual recovery...personal spiritual recovery. The focus is on
    recovery is essentially the "stuff" of revivalism. This focus on spiritual
    recovery must consistently preach deliverance from the bonds of the rampant dysfunctional,
    anxious, addictive process in our world and in Christs Body, the Church through
    Jesus Christ alone.
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- Whats The Goal Of Your Ministry?
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- Given this goal of ministry it is apparent that any other focus of ministry is not only
    unhealthy; it is sinking sand. Attempts to simply relocate a church, add new programs,
    increase ministry staff, engage in fundraising et al without the central, predominant
    focus of recovery may have within them the seeds of self-sabotage and self-destruction.
-  Whats the focus of your ministry?
  
    
* Is it oriented to programs or to hearts?
 
    * Is it dependent on and driven by a dominant addict or to it's real Head,  Jesus
      Christ?
      
      * Is it directed to a specific vision or goal or to changing the hearts of individuals?
 
      * Is it driven by increasing the externalities or by a passionate, unquenchable
      ("addictive") passion to conduct a ministry of personal recovery? 
  
  - God gives all His ministers the "keys" to the Kingdom of God. Perhaps its time
    for us to use these Scriptural keys in the way God intended: to bring about broken and
    contrite hearts to the goal of Kingdom recovery. Thats the kind of healthy,
    spiritual emotional process that God does not despise!
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- Thomas F. Fischer
  
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