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Night With Pastor:
An Orientation Program For Beginning A New Pastorate

Rev. Wayne Dobratz, Pastor
Trinity Lutheran Church
Hampton, Iowa
Number 43

The moving van has been unloaded, you are once again able to find the books you need, and you're in the middle of grieving over the friends and the ministry you've left behind.

Now what?  You ask yourself.   I have so much to do, I don't know where to start.   I am surrounded by this sea of unfamiliar faces, a church which has power pockets and undercurrents that I will probably learn only the hard way. 

What to do?  I decided some years ago to begin a new ministry in a way different than I have begun others.   

The Grief Process

I moved from a 1500 member church with a School and its multiple staff to a one-Pastor Church with  a Secretary, three Preschool Teachers and a part-time Janitor for staff.  Clearly, this would be a different kind of ministry.  I soon realized that the best way to stop missing my friends and Pastoral contacts was to begin making new ones.

That's where the concept of  "Night With Pastor" began to take shape. It's borrowed from the Individual or Group Interviews which some programs use for Stewardship.   Borrow, adapt and use proven ideas--that's what I was advised to do years before.   Why not?

How To Begin Your "Night With Pastor"

I asked my Secretary to give me a list of Church Council members, a group of about 35 in our church. I asked her to contact Council members to participate in our "Night With Pastor" program. A Council Member and his wife would prepare coffee and bars, cake, etc. and would host these weekly meetings. Then I asked my Secretary to follow a format: 3 couples of mixed age and 2 or 3 singles, also of mixed age. With the host couple, that gives you a small group of about 10-11 people. It's not a good idea to have any more than 12 or 13, including the Pastor, or you will lose the Small Group Dynamic that you will need.

How To Structure The Discussion Session:

1) I begin by asking what they thought of the idea of "A Night With The Pastor" when they had first heard of it.  Most respond very positively.  I then ask them to calculate how long it would take the Pastor to visit every home in a Congregation with about 200 households.

2) Then we discuss the importance of communication. I ask them to guess what is the most common problem that marriage counselors encounter. You guessed it!  Lack of communication. Then I ask them to consider the similarities between a marriage and the Pastor's relationship to the people of the congregation.  

3) Then I try to get them to relax by injecting a little humor into the process. See the Addendum (below) for illustrations of communication gone amok. I remind them of how important it is for me to understand their needs and for them to tell me of their needs, much as one must see a Physician with a health problem.

4) I then share with the group the outline for this 90-minute conversation. It takes the form of PAST, PRESENT and FUTURE.

5) I then begin the process of getting acquainted with each participant. I ask them to tell the group where they were baptized and by whom. I thus learn a little of their personal spiritual history. It's helpful to know who has been a lifelong member of the congregation, who is a back-door Lutheran, etc. It also helps them to reflect upon how they came to be in God's Kingdom.

6) The next step is to ask them to calculate how many different Pastors they have had in their lives. This lays the foundation for the next question.

7) Each individual is asked to pick out one Pastor from the average of 5-10  they have had in their lives and to tell the group why they feel this Shepherd had the most influence upon them. This tells me a little of what they expect of me as their new Pastor. This also injects a positive feeling  toward the church when some may not be feeling very positive at the moment.

8) After that is completed, I ask the group to think of their spiritual lives as chapters in a book. I ask them to detail for the group how the Lord was there for them in some special or painful times I also ask them how their Christian "walk" is doing now. That's the "Present." part of the outline.  This tells me if some are still living in the past and to what degree they have accepted me as their Pastor.

The questions must be structured in an open-ended way. You don't want to program people to tell you what they think you want to hear.  If they have had problems with the last pastor or with other members of the church (such as cliques), they are invited to share that briefly. The object is to begin the healing process. This also helps me to know with whom I should schedule follow-up visits.  

This process will hopefully also remind them of how much they need the local church and you as its Pastor. You'd be surprised how many non-attending members show up for these group sessions.  You will be  amazed at how some "open up" and how much they enjoy the intimacy this small group offers them.

9) Then it's break time and our hosts serve coffee and bars. The break lasts about 5-7 minutes.

10) The final part of the interview is about the future: I use a page taken from Don Abdon's Evangelism Saturation book. It reminds us that EVANGELISM IS THE MISSION OF THE CHURCH. That gives me an opportunity to teach them the Biblical meaning of the term "Evangelism". It's not cold-turkey calls but using the relationships God has given them as bridges to the lost.  

I ask them to recall the official name of the Congregation: "Trinity Evangelical Lutheran Church."  I ask what the term "evangelical" adds to the name.  Then we discuss the seven ways that the church does its gospel ministry, in the forms of "Out-Reach" and "In-Reach".  The seven ways are: 1-Education, 2-Preaching, 3-Worship, 4-Counseling, 5-Fellowship, 6-Witness, and 7-Service.

11) We discuss each of the seven ways briefly. Then I ask them to read a few Scriptures together to see how God's Word supplies the power we need for this Gospel ministry. I remind them that a church which doesn't reach out to the lost will often tear itself apart inwardly. This searching of the Scriptures reminds non-attending members of how much they need God's Word. The Scriptures also confirm and strengthen the faith of those who have been attending regularly. See the Addendum (below) for the Scripture sheet.

12) Finally, I tell them of plans to establish a small group ministry and of plans to expand Bible Study offerings. I ask them to complete a "Bible Study Survey."  I ask them to think and pray about their Bible study plans and to return the form when they next attend worship. See the Addendum (below) for this survey form.

13) I close with Paul's heartfelt words in the Book of Philemon: I always thank God as I remember you in my prayers, because I hear about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints. I pray that you may be active in sharing your faith, so that you will have a full understanding of every good thing we have in Christ. Your love has given me great joy and encouragement, because you, brother, have refreshed the hearts of the saints.

Let us pray:  

We thank you, dear Lord, for this time we have spent together this evening.   We thank you for the evidence of the Holy Spirit working in our midst and we thank you for the hope that we have in Christ.   Give us, we pray, a vision that we may work toward the goal of edifying your people and finding the lost sheep that are around us, so that more and more may have a heavenly hope and may at last be gathered around your throne to sing your praises.   We pray in Jesus' name, Amen.

Reflection And Comment

In the space of one year, I have visited with 251 of the adult members of my church. I couldn't be more pleased with the results. I have developed relationships with my people that would not have taken place if I had tried to visit homes one at a time.

It worked for me; it can work for you, too. It takes a little planning, a little skill at groups dynamics and discussion leading, but it's well worth thte time and effort you put into it.

Please write, email or call me if I can be of help to you in beginning a "Night With Pastor" program in your Parish.

Jesus ... had compassion on them, because they were like sheep without a shepherd. So he began teaching them many things. Mark 6:34 (NIV)

 Wayne Dobratz

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ADDENDA
"Night With Pastor" Program

Part I: Humorous examples of communication gone amok:

Some Actual Signs Seen In The Good Ol' USA!! !!

• At a Santa Fe gas station: We will sell gasoline to anyone in a glass container.

• In a New York restaurant: Customers who consider our waitresses uncivil ought to see the manager.

• On a long-established New Mexico dry cleaners: 38 years on the same spot.

• In a Florida maternity ward: No children allowed.

• On a New York convalescent home: For the sick and tired of the Episcopal Church.

• On a display of "I love you only" Valentine cards: Now available in multi-packs.

• On  a shopping mall marquee:  Archery Tournament -- Ears pierced

• In a Pennsylvania cemetery: Persons are prohibited from picking flowers from any but their own graves.

• On a Thank you note:   Thank you for your sympathy and the lovely pot plant.

• Adult Dinner menu:   Road beef, potatoes and gravy.

• Newspaper note:   The Johnson family will attend the funeral of Susie's former husband who died in Detroit, Mich tomorrow.

• The Smiths will be leaving for Texas, where Bill will be attached to the hospital post.

Part II: Scripture Verses Describing Spiritual Growth and Power

• Psalm 119:65-68 (NIV) Do good to your servant according to your word, O LORD. Teach me knowledge and good judgment, for I believe in your commands. Before I was afflicted I went astray, but now I obey your word. You are good, and what you do is good; teach me your decrees.

• Psalm 119:103-105 (NIV) How sweet are your words to my taste, sweeter than honey to my mouth! I gain understanding from your precepts; therefore I hate every wrong path. Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path.

• Psalm 119:111 (NIV) Your statutes are my heritage forever; they are the joy of my heart.

• Philippians 3:16 (NIV) Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God.

• 2 Tim 3:16 (NIV) All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

• Heb 1:1 (NIV) In the past God spoke to our forefathers through the prophets at many times and in various ways, but in these last days he has spoken to us by his Son, whom he appointed heir of all things, and through whom he made the universe.

• 1 Pet 2:2 (NIV) Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.

• 2 Pet 1:19-21 (NIV) And we have the word of the prophets made more certain, and you will do well to pay attention to it, as to a light shining in a dark place, until the day dawns and the morning star rises in your hearts. Above all, you must understand that no prophecy of Scripture came about by the prophet's own interpretation. For prophecy never had its origin in the will of man, but men  spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit.

• l John l:1-5 (NIV)  That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we have looked at and our hands have touched--this we proclaim concerning the Word of life. The life appeared; we have seen it and testify to it, and we proclaim to you the eternal life, which was with the Father and has appeared to us. We proclaim to you what we have seen and heard, so that you also may have fellowship with us. And our fellowship is with the Father and with his Son, Jesus Christ. We write this to make our joy complete. This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all.

Part III: Bible Study Survey

Bible Study Survey

If I were to attend a Bible study during the next year or so, I would be interested in studying:

THESE TOPICS:




THESE BOOKS OF THE BIBLE:



Previous Books of the Bible I have studied:



Questions I would really like to get answered about the Bible, about God, about my future, etc.




I will attempt to attend at least one Bible Study during the next year.


Signed _____________________________________________

THESE TOPICS:




THESE BOOKS OF THE BIBLE:



Previous Books of the Bible I have studied:



Questions I would really like to get answered about the Bible, about God, about my future, etc.




I will attempt to attend at least one Bible Study during the next year.


Signed _____________________________________________

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